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About Stephanie (:

I'm just a girl trying to get by in a big world. I'm simple - nothing flamboyant or outrageous. I believe everyone deserves a little bit of sunshine in their day and that every day is worth living. I attempt to be inspirational or thoughtful; I like to make people smile. I have a thing for photography, my dog, and macaroni and cheese. So I'm unique; what's wrong with that? (:

Maybe…

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For some reason..

I feel like many of this generation’s women have a hard time communicating their feelings to their husbands, boyfriends, etc. and it can end up causing a lot of problems; miscommunication and misunderstanding are two of the biggest reasons for relational arguments and disagreements.

This is probably because of the rise in social media use; people don’t know how to talk anymore! Therefore, a lot of feelings and emotions end up thrown into subliminal Facebook statuses or quote pictures on Instagram that somehow relate to the way she is feeling at the time.

Do guys take the hint? Well, we don’t really know! 

I guess we post these things hoping that they will be correctly translated – ha!

So here:

-Maybe she wants you to respond to her text message(s) or call to see what’s up.

-Maybe she wants to hang out with you.

-Maybe she wants to feel like you appreciate her and care about her.

-Maybe she wants to go out on a date!

-Maybe she wants you to just tell her how you feel and stop being so confusing.

-Maybe she just wants you to notice her.

-Maybe she wants to be your girlfriend.

-Maybe she’s mad and wants you to see that you really hurt her feelings (whether you think you did or not).

-Maybe she’s sick and wants a cup of tea.

-Maybe she wants you to do yoga with her.

-Maybe she wants you to be proud enough to take her out in public – in the daytime.

-Maybe she wants to stop feeling like the side chick or the second choice.

-Maybe she loves you and wants to tell you but doesn’t know how.

So, there you go. It’s a partial women-men dictionary.

This post is random, I know.

Or maybe it’s subliminal? 🙂

Where You’re Supposed to Be

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As I’m sure you’ve read…

Things in my life didn’t really go as planned. I started this blog when I was in high school – when I wanted to change the world – and when I went to college, a lot of things changed. I had the best of everything, really. I was accepted to The Ohio State University in the Honors Program. I had a supportive family. I liked my classes. I was doing research at the children’s hospital. I had a job. I was making a lot of friends. And in what seemed like a short amount of time, everything changed.

Looking back, it still feels like a rug got pulled out from beneath my feet. I had everything set right in front of me, and look at where I am now – somewhere completely different than I would’ve ever expected.

BUT:

Through the experiences I had during that period of time – good, bad, and really bad – I found what happiness really is. Yeah, that sounds corny, but hang on.

I think we have this ideal in our minds of what our lives should be like or what we should be doing, but is that really true? Life hands us a lot of different choices, many different paths from which to choose. I think we often find ourselves choosing the paths others expect of us, and then find ourselves empty.

But happiness isn’t always found in expectations. It’s not always in what people see you doing or what you would be best at doing. It’s not always with the people you should be around or in the place you should be at:

Wherever you end up, you were supposed to get there.

I was meant to go to big places – a big university, a big city. I wanted to have some monumental career, my name on a plaque or in some published article. I thought I could change the world by overexerting all of my energy into school and my job. I thought I needed people just like me all around me to push me.

The truth? I burned out. Yeah, that’s right. It didn’t work out. I didn’t meet my own expectation. So I moved back home, started going to a smaller school, found a full-time job, made new friends. And you know what?

I’M HAPPY.

That’s the real truth. I found happiness when I let go of the expectations I put on myself and when I stopped thinking about what other people expected of me. When I put away the should bes and could bes and would bes and did what I wanted to do. 

As cliche as it sounds, people – everything happens for a reason. Where you are right now at this very moment – whether you’re reading blogs to pass time waiting for an appointment or being lazy on break at work, whatever – is where you’re supposed to be. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even if you have no idea whatsoever what you’re doing with your life. Even if you know you want to be doing something else. There’s a reason.

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You.

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I have a few words to say about you. Yes, you.

First of all, did you know that you are special? That you are loved? That you are important to someone?

Did you know that you’re somebody’s reason to smile and you’re really talented at something?

I’m sure somebody has told you that you have some great quality; something about your personality is awesome.

In fact, I bet there’s somebody somewhere saying or thinking something great about you right now.

 

Where am I going with this? Well, from here – now that you’re smiling a little – I wanted to just remind you to be yourself.

Are you laughing at my cliché reminder? Well, stop. This is serious. Be yourself.

If I have learned anything in these past few months, it’s that you should never let the world’s opinion of you change you.

Face it, we are already a product of society; how we act, the way we dress, the things we say are all factors that we have learned from the world around us. BUT. There is some reason that we are not all the same. The reason is that there is nobody in this world that is capable of being as good at being you, than you! (I know, it gets more cliché as I go). 

 

Really, though. No matter what ugly gossip is going around about you. No matter what those girls say behind your back in the break room. No matter what people say you’re bad at. No matter what magazines tell you that your style is lame. No matter what your talent(s) is/are. No matter what time you get in the 5K. No matter what your horoscope says. YOU ARE YOU, and nobody can change that unless you let them. 

 

Food for thought. ♥

Mother’s Day Flowers

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It’s Mother’s Day!

Honestly, the one thing I always think about on Mother’s Day is the TV show Full House when Jesse tries to teach Nicky and Alex a song to sing to Becky: “What day is today? Today is Mother’s Day!” Sorry. 90s kids issues.

Anyway. I thought about what you’re supposed to give a mom on Mother’s Day, and I think of flowers first. I got my mom some peach roses and white chrysanthemums, but what about all of you?

Here are some pictures I took when I first got home from school and spring had definitely sprung in my yard!

Happy Mother’s Day to all you moms!

If you’re not a mom, enjoy the flowers 🙂

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Freshman Year. Check.

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Well hey.

I guess you can say I got swept up in the end of the year and that would be true! I got really involved with my church and then finals came along and things were really crazy. But I am back home now for the summer, a birthday has passed (yes, I’m nineteen), and I’m done with my freshman year of college. Wow, that’s really hard to believe.

I’d like to recap this past year at college. No, I’d like to recap what I’ve learned. Why? Because I would never go back and relive my freshman year again, but I have sure gained a lot of knowledge from it.

You know, it isn’t even my college experience. It just happened to be the time that this took place. My life at Ohio State was great. I met some great people, learned a lot of great things, and participated in so many great activities. But, most importantly, I have found out who I am. This wasn’t until recently, literally in the last two months, but I have realized what it is to figure out who you are. People say they just “get it” one day and know who they are, but I believe that you find yourself in the lowest of low.

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Why?

Because in that dark place, when you’re probably alone and you feel like you have no one, you’re just stuck with yourself. You and yourself have to pick up the pieces. You may find someone that is willing to help you, but when it comes down to it, it’s all up to you. The best part is, though, that as you pick up each piece, each brick that makes you YOU, and start putting things back together, you learn a little bit more of yourself. When you’re broken, some of those pieces can’t be replaced, so sometimes you have to recreate that part of your life and that’s a good thing. That’s how you figure out who you are.

So who am I?

I’m just a girl. A simple girl. I was raised in the suburbs. I go to The Ohio State University. I strive for perfection. I have big dreams. I try my best at almost everything I do. I love God. I love my dog. I love extra cheese on anything. I have a great family. I have amazing friends. I really enjoy driving my car around with the windows down and the music loud. I have a thing for Peter, Paul & Mary and The Beatles. I play the piano and sing at the top of my lungs when I’m home alone. I’m a little weird.

I may be just a girl. But I am ME; the ME I figured out by myself.

That’s what I’m proud of. ♥

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Don’t Think Twice

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So, we all know I love

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right?

Okay, in case you’re unfamiliar, they were super popular in the 1960s for their folk music.

They did a cover of one of Bob Dylan’s pieces that is personally one of my favorites, Don’t Think Twice, It’s All Right. 

I feel inspired by this today.

This song could probably be interpreted as one about a break-up, obviously, but I feel like it’s more than that. It’s as if the narrator is walking away from something that he appreciated and loved, and most likely learned something from, and he’s just giving himself a little pep talk. Like “hey, I know this sucks, but it’s going to be all right.

It’s really a pure genius of a song:

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It ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe; it don’t matter anyhow.

And it ain’t no use to sit and wonder why, babe, if you don’t know by now.

When the rooster crows at the break of dawn, look out your window and I’ll be gone.

You’re the reason I’m traveling on; don’t think twice, it’s all right.

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To me, this song is sort of  saying, “I’m not happy anymore and I can tell that you don’t really care about me, so I’m just gonna go.” Obviously, it isn’t that easy to get up and go, but you know what I mean. I think I’ve spent so much time feeling sad and angry that I haven’t thought about the good times – maybe I’m not quite ready yet – and that is what has made it so hard. When you’re constantly wondering “why,” your mind sort of sticks in one place.

So I think I’m at that point where it’s time to say that I’m ready to move on. Not to someone else, but with my life. I’m ready to do what I want without question, ready to live without worry, ready to follow my dreams! I understand that I’ve been able to do that for a while now, but I just don’t know if I’ve allowed myself to put my whole heart into that ability. Honestly, it’s a really scary thing!

There is no hold on me anymore.

And if you’re feeling the same way today, I hope you know that you are free, too.

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It ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal – like you never did before.

And it ain’t no use in callin’ out my name, gal; I can’t hear you anymore.

I’m a-thinkin’ and a-wonderin’, walkin’ down the road;

I once loved a woman, a child I’m told; I gave her my heart but she wanted my soul.

But don’t think twice, it’s all right.

One Works Better.

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My Favorite Television Show. . .

Is by far ABC’s Nashville, which is on every Wednesday at 10pm, (just in case you want to watch).

Anyway, in the past month or so, along with my present situation, one of the songs off the soundtrack has most definitely been my theme song. Have you ever had one of those songs that just pumps you up and puts you in a better mood right quick? This is one of those songs for me.

The song is called One Works Better sung by Clare Bowen and Sam Palladio (Scarlett and Gunnar in the show).

If you haven’t heard it, go listen, but I’m going to paste some of the lyrics here:

Oh, this plane can fly on just one engine; This heart can beat without affection.

I’m not a choice, I’m a natural selection.

Well, this house can stand just fine on it’s own; This hand’s gonna rule without a throne.

I’m not a mother, I’m a queen of invention.

I’m gonna make you see the difference between just quitting and survival.

I’ve got a voice and I’ve made my choice between heartbreak and revival

Oh I know you’ll hate how I make everything look easy to do;

Oh, but it’s my pleasure doing everything better without you,

‘Cause this one works better than two.

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Have you figured out where I’m going? There’s so much I could say, but I’m trying to keep myself on track.

The point is this: we are all valuable, no matter what you believe, and we deserve to be treated well. We have strength, even if it is merely minute and hidden somewhere deep inside us. We all have the power to tell ourselves that “it will be okay.” And above all, we all have the ability to put our pasts behind us, even if it isn’t the easiest thing to do.

The thing is, it’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to suffer. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be mad.

But then comes the moment that is, in all honesty, up to you in the long run – that moment when you pack up your past in a box and throw it up in the attic, only to be opened up for memories later down the road of life. Some people never make it to this point; like I said, it’s a choice. I decided, though, that it was inevitable – I had to make this choice for my own sanity. It’s not really a one-day thing like spring cleaning; it is a slow process of placing more and more in the box each day. Some days, nothing goes in; some days, some comes back out.

As I’ve heard before, “You take one step forward and two steps back,” and that’s normal.

So. Today will you open up your box? Look inside? Think of what you can toss? Go for it.

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“Two wrongs don’t make a right; one leaves the other behind. And I’ve found you only regret when you stay too long with the one that you’ll forget.”

-Nashville ♥