Tag Archives: be yourself

Where You’re Supposed to Be

Standard

As I’m sure you’ve read…

Things in my life didn’t really go as planned. I started this blog when I was in high school – when I wanted to change the world – and when I went to college, a lot of things changed. I had the best of everything, really. I was accepted to The Ohio State University in the Honors Program. I had a supportive family. I liked my classes. I was doing research at the children’s hospital. I had a job. I was making a lot of friends. And in what seemed like a short amount of time, everything changed.

Looking back, it still feels like a rug got pulled out from beneath my feet. I had everything set right in front of me, and look at where I am now – somewhere completely different than I would’ve ever expected.

BUT:

Through the experiences I had during that period of time – good, bad, and really bad – I found what happiness really is. Yeah, that sounds corny, but hang on.

I think we have this ideal in our minds of what our lives should be like or what we should be doing, but is that really true? Life hands us a lot of different choices, many different paths from which to choose. I think we often find ourselves choosing the paths others expect of us, and then find ourselves empty.

But happiness isn’t always found in expectations. It’s not always in what people see you doing or what you would be best at doing. It’s not always with the people you should be around or in the place you should be at:

Wherever you end up, you were supposed to get there.

I was meant to go to big places – a big university, a big city. I wanted to have some monumental career, my name on a plaque or in some published article. I thought I could change the world by overexerting all of my energy into school and my job. I thought I needed people just like me all around me to push me.

The truth? I burned out. Yeah, that’s right. It didn’t work out. I didn’t meet my own expectation. So I moved back home, started going to a smaller school, found a full-time job, made new friends. And you know what?

I’M HAPPY.

That’s the real truth. I found happiness when I let go of the expectations I put on myself and when I stopped thinking about what other people expected of me. When I put away the should bes and could bes and would bes and did what I wanted to do. 

As cliche as it sounds, people – everything happens for a reason. Where you are right now at this very moment – whether you’re reading blogs to pass time waiting for an appointment or being lazy on break at work, whatever – is where you’re supposed to be. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even if you have no idea whatsoever what you’re doing with your life. Even if you know you want to be doing something else. There’s a reason.

06_large happy-7tykdr8dp-126139-500-400 past-photography-present-quote-text-Favim.com-127751 SONY DSC

Advertisements

You.

Standard

I have a few words to say about you. Yes, you.

First of all, did you know that you are special? That you are loved? That you are important to someone?

Did you know that you’re somebody’s reason to smile and you’re really talented at something?

I’m sure somebody has told you that you have some great quality; something about your personality is awesome.

In fact, I bet there’s somebody somewhere saying or thinking something great about you right now.

 

Where am I going with this? Well, from here – now that you’re smiling a little – I wanted to just remind you to be yourself.

Are you laughing at my cliché reminder? Well, stop. This is serious. Be yourself.

If I have learned anything in these past few months, it’s that you should never let the world’s opinion of you change you.

Face it, we are already a product of society; how we act, the way we dress, the things we say are all factors that we have learned from the world around us. BUT. There is some reason that we are not all the same. The reason is that there is nobody in this world that is capable of being as good at being you, than you! (I know, it gets more cliché as I go). 

 

Really, though. No matter what ugly gossip is going around about you. No matter what those girls say behind your back in the break room. No matter what people say you’re bad at. No matter what magazines tell you that your style is lame. No matter what your talent(s) is/are. No matter what time you get in the 5K. No matter what your horoscope says. YOU ARE YOU, and nobody can change that unless you let them. 

 

Food for thought. ♥

Be You.

Standard

“You are always the best at being you,

Even if you don’t know who you are yet.”

-Justin R. Swails

In a long telephone conversation, my intelligent boyfriend said this to me and it struck me as the perfect quote for today to follow up yesterday’s post. Why? Because it seems as though the world pressures people to follow the example of others whether it is your parents, celebrities, political figures, etc. and sometimes that is taken to the point where people become copies. There is obviously an extreme difference in looking up to someone as a role model and taking their personality and characteristics as your own. It is quite a shame, really, because you were born you for a reason.

Like I said yesterday, each of us is a different piece of artwork. Not one piece of artwork can ever be exactly or perfectly duplicated. While there may be replicas of Vincent Van Gogh’s Starry Night, there is only one version of the original (hence the word original). The thing is that there is a reason for each piece of artwork. Whether it is an inspiration to make music or dance, a therapy for someone who is sick, a representation of someone’s feelings – there is a purpose for each of us on this planet.

That’s why you mustn’t be a copy. Who can serve your purpose besides you?