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Maybe…

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For some reason..

I feel like many of this generation’s women have a hard time communicating their feelings to their husbands, boyfriends, etc. and it can end up causing a lot of problems; miscommunication and misunderstanding are two of the biggest reasons for relational arguments and disagreements.

This is probably because of the rise in social media use; people don’t know how to talk anymore! Therefore, a lot of feelings and emotions end up thrown into subliminal Facebook statuses or quote pictures on Instagram that somehow relate to the way she is feeling at the time.

Do guys take the hint? Well, we don’t really know! 

I guess we post these things hoping that they will be correctly translated – ha!

So here:

-Maybe she wants you to respond to her text message(s) or call to see what’s up.

-Maybe she wants to hang out with you.

-Maybe she wants to feel like you appreciate her and care about her.

-Maybe she wants to go out on a date!

-Maybe she wants you to just tell her how you feel and stop being so confusing.

-Maybe she just wants you to notice her.

-Maybe she wants to be your girlfriend.

-Maybe she’s mad and wants you to see that you really hurt her feelings (whether you think you did or not).

-Maybe she’s sick and wants a cup of tea.

-Maybe she wants you to do yoga with her.

-Maybe she wants you to be proud enough to take her out in public – in the daytime.

-Maybe she wants to stop feeling like the side chick or the second choice.

-Maybe she loves you and wants to tell you but doesn’t know how.

So, there you go. It’s a partial women-men dictionary.

This post is random, I know.

Or maybe it’s subliminal? 🙂

Where You’re Supposed to Be

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As I’m sure you’ve read…

Things in my life didn’t really go as planned. I started this blog when I was in high school – when I wanted to change the world – and when I went to college, a lot of things changed. I had the best of everything, really. I was accepted to The Ohio State University in the Honors Program. I had a supportive family. I liked my classes. I was doing research at the children’s hospital. I had a job. I was making a lot of friends. And in what seemed like a short amount of time, everything changed.

Looking back, it still feels like a rug got pulled out from beneath my feet. I had everything set right in front of me, and look at where I am now – somewhere completely different than I would’ve ever expected.

BUT:

Through the experiences I had during that period of time – good, bad, and really bad – I found what happiness really is. Yeah, that sounds corny, but hang on.

I think we have this ideal in our minds of what our lives should be like or what we should be doing, but is that really true? Life hands us a lot of different choices, many different paths from which to choose. I think we often find ourselves choosing the paths others expect of us, and then find ourselves empty.

But happiness isn’t always found in expectations. It’s not always in what people see you doing or what you would be best at doing. It’s not always with the people you should be around or in the place you should be at:

Wherever you end up, you were supposed to get there.

I was meant to go to big places – a big university, a big city. I wanted to have some monumental career, my name on a plaque or in some published article. I thought I could change the world by overexerting all of my energy into school and my job. I thought I needed people just like me all around me to push me.

The truth? I burned out. Yeah, that’s right. It didn’t work out. I didn’t meet my own expectation. So I moved back home, started going to a smaller school, found a full-time job, made new friends. And you know what?

I’M HAPPY.

That’s the real truth. I found happiness when I let go of the expectations I put on myself and when I stopped thinking about what other people expected of me. When I put away the should bes and could bes and would bes and did what I wanted to do. 

As cliche as it sounds, people – everything happens for a reason. Where you are right now at this very moment – whether you’re reading blogs to pass time waiting for an appointment or being lazy on break at work, whatever – is where you’re supposed to be. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even if you have no idea whatsoever what you’re doing with your life. Even if you know you want to be doing something else. There’s a reason.

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Words Hurt

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I found a quote this morning….

“Bruises mark the surface; words sink in deep.”

I pondered this quote after reading it once or twice and realizing its relevance. I’ve been wondering lately about how people can possibly be so hurtful without a care in the world and this quote made me see what an impact words have on others. While some words are often misunderstood and taken in a different context, some are said with intention to sting deep within another person. Of course, everyone is guilty of saying something hurtful at least once in his or her life, if just once is even possible. But what about those people that consistently hurt our feelings? What do we do about them?

To be quite honest with you, I didn’t approach this blog post with any advice because I really have no idea myself; this is just a wandering thought. It just amazes me how some people have the inability to be kind and caring, how some can just speak hate without thinking and without regretting. It’s truly sad, I have to say; I wish the world could be filled with peaceful and happy people!

Question to Ponder: How can you profess to know someone so well but say the things you know will hurt his or her feelings?

I know my blog is usually full of sunshine and inspiration, but I guess the sky is a bit overcast today. :/

When you say things, think about the effect they may have on the person with whom you are talking. Please.

Be You.

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“You are always the best at being you,

Even if you don’t know who you are yet.”

-Justin R. Swails

In a long telephone conversation, my intelligent boyfriend said this to me and it struck me as the perfect quote for today to follow up yesterday’s post. Why? Because it seems as though the world pressures people to follow the example of others whether it is your parents, celebrities, political figures, etc. and sometimes that is taken to the point where people become copies. There is obviously an extreme difference in looking up to someone as a role model and taking their personality and characteristics as your own. It is quite a shame, really, because you were born you for a reason.

Like I said yesterday, each of us is a different piece of artwork. Not one piece of artwork can ever be exactly or perfectly duplicated. While there may be replicas of Vincent Van Gogh’s Starry Night, there is only one version of the original (hence the word original). The thing is that there is a reason for each piece of artwork. Whether it is an inspiration to make music or dance, a therapy for someone who is sick, a representation of someone’s feelings – there is a purpose for each of us on this planet.

That’s why you mustn’t be a copy. Who can serve your purpose besides you?