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Where You’re Supposed to Be

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As I’m sure you’ve read…

Things in my life didn’t really go as planned. I started this blog when I was in high school – when I wanted to change the world – and when I went to college, a lot of things changed. I had the best of everything, really. I was accepted to The Ohio State University in the Honors Program. I had a supportive family. I liked my classes. I was doing research at the children’s hospital. I had a job. I was making a lot of friends. And in what seemed like a short amount of time, everything changed.

Looking back, it still feels like a rug got pulled out from beneath my feet. I had everything set right in front of me, and look at where I am now – somewhere completely different than I would’ve ever expected.

BUT:

Through the experiences I had during that period of time – good, bad, and really bad – I found what happiness really is. Yeah, that sounds corny, but hang on.

I think we have this ideal in our minds of what our lives should be like or what we should be doing, but is that really true? Life hands us a lot of different choices, many different paths from which to choose. I think we often find ourselves choosing the paths others expect of us, and then find ourselves empty.

But happiness isn’t always found in expectations. It’s not always in what people see you doing or what you would be best at doing. It’s not always with the people you should be around or in the place you should be at:

Wherever you end up, you were supposed to get there.

I was meant to go to big places – a big university, a big city. I wanted to have some monumental career, my name on a plaque or in some published article. I thought I could change the world by overexerting all of my energy into school and my job. I thought I needed people just like me all around me to push me.

The truth? I burned out. Yeah, that’s right. It didn’t work out. I didn’t meet my own expectation. So I moved back home, started going to a smaller school, found a full-time job, made new friends. And you know what?

I’M HAPPY.

That’s the real truth. I found happiness when I let go of the expectations I put on myself and when I stopped thinking about what other people expected of me. When I put away the should bes and could bes and would bes and did what I wanted to do. 

As cliche as it sounds, people – everything happens for a reason. Where you are right now at this very moment – whether you’re reading blogs to pass time waiting for an appointment or being lazy on break at work, whatever – is where you’re supposed to be. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even if you have no idea whatsoever what you’re doing with your life. Even if you know you want to be doing something else. There’s a reason.

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A New Change.

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Hey Friends.

So. Where do I start? This year has not gone as I’ve planned, despite how happy my last post (in October) sounded. I don’t know if I should go into extreme details, but I just want to start over as I have in the other aspects of my life.

At first I thought about starting a completely new blog, but then I thought no. This has been my blog from the beginning, and it is the one thing I won’t throw away. So here I am, my lovely subscribers and readers, blogging sunshine per usual.

I have learned so much in the past month, so many things I had never really seen before. I’ve learned how to be an adult and how to be independent. I’ve realized how important my parents and my friends are in my life. And I’ve especially seen how much I’ve missed blogging!

So, I’m back for real this time. And that’s a promise. Got it?

From this blog on, it is a new beginning. A new journey.

Trust me. I’ve got a lot to share 🙂

♥Stephanie

Family & Friends Make the World Go ‘Round <3

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Well, now that I’m in the mood…

I’ve decided that it is important to not only recognize the little things in life, but also those people who bring smiles to our days and laughter to our heart. I think sometimes they go unnoticed and we often fail to thank them for their influence in our lives. Well, here is my thank you to those dear folks in my life; who are yours?

♥ My Momma

I guess you could say that I would’t be here without her, huh? But besides that, she is a great friend and confidence when I really need her. Through the ups and the downs, she is always there for me and I feel lucky to call her mom.

Daddy!

I grew up as the daddy’s girl, a tomboy at heart. From pitching softballs in the front yard to learning how to use a lawnmower to playing Barbies, my dad did everything with me. I know that if I ever needed a thing, my dad would be right there before anybody else.

Grandma’s Cookies…

It wasn’t really the cookies, honestly, but my grandmas are the best. One taught me all about being a good person and the other took me to all the beaches in Huron just to see the water and play on the playgrounds. I could promise anyone that time spent with grandma is irreplaceable.

Best Friend.

The one who has gotten me through so much grief, tears, anger, smiles, and laughter: Justin. I know that no matter where we go in life, we will always be friends who love to goof off, have fun, and LAUGH. You are wonderful and I love you.

Brother♥

To have the one thing I’ve always wanted but never thought I would get is the best thing I could ever ask for. Jeremy, thank you for adopting me and loving me like any brother would. I couldn’t ask for a better big brother; you win overall.

Chorale Buddy 🙂

Oh Katie, what we have been through. From standing next to each other on the risers, to cuddling in bed at night, to showering together at our host houses, we have been through so much and still love each other to death. You are an amazing friend and I would be lost without youuuu.

Seesters are related friends♥

I was blessed with two beautiful half sisters who grew apart from me . . . maybe in distance, but never in heart, right? We’ve grown up to be great friends and that I am thankful for, along with my five lovely nieces and nephews!

High School Besties are never forgotten.

Rach and JordieLeigh: you got me through high school. From stupid fights, getting ready for dances, passing notes in class, sending each other crazy emails, all the way to visiting your sick friend in the hospital, you were both thee best friends I could ever ask for. I’m going to miss you so much! I already do. ♥

Oh, and my dog.

I know I mentioned him as a “thing” last night, but my dog is truly a person in my mind. This animal knows exactly when I’m upset and never leaves my side until I’m smiling. Call me crazy, but I love my dog.

“Friends and family are the chocolate chips in the cookie of life.”

-Unknown

My Ten Favorite Things (Other Than People)

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I Believe:

Everyone has things in their lives that make the day simpler. I got this idea from another blog, though it was one hundred things (maybe I’ll get that far someday), but I thought it would be a great way to highlight the good things in life. I think sometimes we take the little things for granted and just get used to them….maybe after awhile we forget how important they are in our lives.Well, here are the top ten things in my life; what are yours?

#1. My Dog

The guy I’m going to miss the most while I’m at college! Adopted from a rescue shelter, my family and I helped nurse Jersey back to health; he was a tough little guy. I swear he understands me more than I think; he knows right when to be by my side!

#2. Notebooks

I sure love my writing! Now that I’ve adapted to writing my stories on the computer, I don’t use notebooks as often, but I used to fill them with my handwritten novellas. I have piles of them but still love to write away (:

#3. Music

Oh, my sweet escape. What emotion is there that music fails to describe?

#4. Lake Erie

I’ve grown up around it and it will always hold a place in my heart. Seeing the water always seems to calm any frustration..

#5. Lucky Charms

My breakfast every morning and sometimes a late-evening snack. It can be eaten moist or dry; it doesn’t matter!

#6. My Droid X

Since most of my friends live so far away, it’s nice to be able to keep in contact so easily. Honestly, the best phone ever made in my opinion! Can’t say I could go a day without it. ♥

#7. The Ohio State University

My newest home! The achievement I am most proud of….How firm thy friendship – OHIO! ♥

#8. My MacBook Pro

Truly the most useful companion. Perfect for my blog, social media, photo-editing, and story-writing!

#9. The Ohio State Fair

Ah, how the fair never ceases to amaze me! The food, the many different people, the animals, the rides, and the festivities! I don’t know if I can go a summer without visiting the good ‘ol fair, even when I’m out of the youth choir!

#10. Crocheting

Everyone needs something that calms them down and for me it would be crocheting. Whether I am sad, angry, or even happy, I can take it out on my work. What a wonderful hobby!

“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.”

-Mother Teresa

Let It Be.

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Song for Today:

And when the night is cloudy there is still a light that shines on me
Shine until tomorrow, let it be
I wake up to the sound of music, Mother Mary comes to me
Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
There will be an answer, let it be
Let it be, let it be, let it be, yeah, let it be
Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

“Let It Be” – The Beatles

As I conclude my “lesson” today, I want to be on a happier note, I think. Well, you know I love the Beatles so I was playing the infamous Beatles 1 album this morning while I got ready for school. I said that sometimes you just have to move on and that’s definitely true, and this song just summed it up for me! I feel like so much bad and annoying and obnoxious has been going on lately, all just bogging me down! I’m usually the kind of person who just lets things go but it has been so hard to just sit and watch! Anyway, this song made me realize that if we just let things go and chill, eventually there will be an answer.

I think I have just been so tired of fussing and fighting and arguing and getting worked up over petty issues and feeling insecure….I’m just overwhelmed! So my last thought for today is to get my mind off of all the bad things and focus on what needs to be done (Anatomy test, English quiz, Statistics quiz, and some other miscellaneous)  along with what I  need (positive mental and emotional health, maybe?).

I hope if anyone else is struggling today, you can let it be as well.

Do Everything With Love <3

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“The more you are motivated by love

  the more fearless and free 

   your actions will be.”


-Katharine Mansfield





Whether we realize it or not, love from others often brings out the best in people.

Imagine what the world would be like if everything we did

Was done out of love for others….



Love,
Stephanie