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Where You’re Supposed to Be

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As I’m sure you’ve read…

Things in my life didn’t really go as planned. I started this blog when I was in high school – when I wanted to change the world – and when I went to college, a lot of things changed. I had the best of everything, really. I was accepted to The Ohio State University in the Honors Program. I had a supportive family. I liked my classes. I was doing research at the children’s hospital. I had a job. I was making a lot of friends. And in what seemed like a short amount of time, everything changed.

Looking back, it still feels like a rug got pulled out from beneath my feet. I had everything set right in front of me, and look at where I am now – somewhere completely different than I would’ve ever expected.

BUT:

Through the experiences I had during that period of time – good, bad, and really bad – I found what happiness really is. Yeah, that sounds corny, but hang on.

I think we have this ideal in our minds of what our lives should be like or what we should be doing, but is that really true? Life hands us a lot of different choices, many different paths from which to choose. I think we often find ourselves choosing the paths others expect of us, and then find ourselves empty.

But happiness isn’t always found in expectations. It’s not always in what people see you doing or what you would be best at doing. It’s not always with the people you should be around or in the place you should be at:

Wherever you end up, you were supposed to get there.

I was meant to go to big places – a big university, a big city. I wanted to have some monumental career, my name on a plaque or in some published article. I thought I could change the world by overexerting all of my energy into school and my job. I thought I needed people just like me all around me to push me.

The truth? I burned out. Yeah, that’s right. It didn’t work out. I didn’t meet my own expectation. So I moved back home, started going to a smaller school, found a full-time job, made new friends. And you know what?

I’M HAPPY.

That’s the real truth. I found happiness when I let go of the expectations I put on myself and when I stopped thinking about what other people expected of me. When I put away the should bes and could bes and would bes and did what I wanted to do. 

As cliche as it sounds, people – everything happens for a reason. Where you are right now at this very moment – whether you’re reading blogs to pass time waiting for an appointment or being lazy on break at work, whatever – is where you’re supposed to be. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now. Even if you have no idea whatsoever what you’re doing with your life. Even if you know you want to be doing something else. There’s a reason.

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One Works Better.

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My Favorite Television Show. . .

Is by far ABC’s Nashville, which is on every Wednesday at 10pm, (just in case you want to watch).

Anyway, in the past month or so, along with my present situation, one of the songs off the soundtrack has most definitely been my theme song. Have you ever had one of those songs that just pumps you up and puts you in a better mood right quick? This is one of those songs for me.

The song is called One Works Better sung by Clare Bowen and Sam Palladio (Scarlett and Gunnar in the show).

If you haven’t heard it, go listen, but I’m going to paste some of the lyrics here:

Oh, this plane can fly on just one engine; This heart can beat without affection.

I’m not a choice, I’m a natural selection.

Well, this house can stand just fine on it’s own; This hand’s gonna rule without a throne.

I’m not a mother, I’m a queen of invention.

I’m gonna make you see the difference between just quitting and survival.

I’ve got a voice and I’ve made my choice between heartbreak and revival

Oh I know you’ll hate how I make everything look easy to do;

Oh, but it’s my pleasure doing everything better without you,

‘Cause this one works better than two.

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Have you figured out where I’m going? There’s so much I could say, but I’m trying to keep myself on track.

The point is this: we are all valuable, no matter what you believe, and we deserve to be treated well. We have strength, even if it is merely minute and hidden somewhere deep inside us. We all have the power to tell ourselves that “it will be okay.” And above all, we all have the ability to put our pasts behind us, even if it isn’t the easiest thing to do.

The thing is, it’s okay to struggle. It’s okay to suffer. It’s okay to cry. It’s okay to be mad.

But then comes the moment that is, in all honesty, up to you in the long run – that moment when you pack up your past in a box and throw it up in the attic, only to be opened up for memories later down the road of life. Some people never make it to this point; like I said, it’s a choice. I decided, though, that it was inevitable – I had to make this choice for my own sanity. It’s not really a one-day thing like spring cleaning; it is a slow process of placing more and more in the box each day. Some days, nothing goes in; some days, some comes back out.

As I’ve heard before, “You take one step forward and two steps back,” and that’s normal.

So. Today will you open up your box? Look inside? Think of what you can toss? Go for it.

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“Two wrongs don’t make a right; one leaves the other behind. And I’ve found you only regret when you stay too long with the one that you’ll forget.”

-Nashville ♥

It’s Crunch-Time!

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Have No Fear, Stephanie is Here!

What am I talking about?! I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing!

 Move-In Day at The Ohio State University is approaching quickly for those last-minute packers (like myself). The difficulty of leaving mommy and daddy’s house for the first time is setting in too, even for those who are excited. For an only child with parents dreading their experience of empty-nest syndrome, these next couple days are bound to be a little emotional!

Though I am clueless myself, I thought that my few pointers to avoid the nervousness about leaving may be helpful…

 Step #1: Take A Breather

A new experience awaits and, of course, that is a scary thought. We have no idea what we’re getting into and that makes us worry; the unknown is something nobody likes. Sit back and think about where you’ve been and where you’re going. The path is just beginning here, but to savor it, you must remember what you’ve done to get here. Personally, I think about graduation and the bits of fun I had in high school.

Step #2: Calm Yourself

It’s definitely okay to be afraid, nervous, and even anxious. Try to remember that while things are frightening at first, eventually you become accustomed and realize that there was nothing to be afraid of (like the monsters under the bed). If you’re like me, comfort food always helps; these days, it’s kettle corn. You can also make something that will reassure you like a map of campus noting where your classes, favorite study spots, or even friends’ dorms are located. Mine is below! 🙂

Step #3: Write it All Down

Whether it be blogging, typing, or using a good ol’ notebook (my personal preference), writing is a great way to get out the deepest and innermost thoughts spiraling around your head. With so much going on, it’s always nice to be able to release stress. Writing, doodling, and scribbling are all a wonderful part of the venting process!

Step #4: Spend Time with Family

It could be mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, your dog, or your fish. Whoever it is, you have to face the fact that you’re leaving them for a good amount of time. Of course, it’s different, and that’s why spending a good amount of time with family and friends before you leave is a perfect thing to get your mind off of leaving. My family and I went to Amish Country yesterday for a day of eating yummy food and window-shopping. Whether it’s going somewhere, playing a board game, or just sitting around the dinner table for once, spend some time with those you are leaving behind!

Step #5: Find What Makes You Comfortable

Leaving your neck of the woods is a little unsettling; a new room, new people and a new home await you at college. Take things that will remind you of the place and the people you have left behind. In my case, I printed some pictures to hang up around my room so I know that I’m never alone. Buying some college gear to make you feel more at home and a part of a group while on campus might be a great start to moving in. Check out my Buckeyes key-chain from Amish Country and my OSU tumblr cup! Hey, read the book! 🙂

Step #6: PACK

Okay, yeah…there isn’t really any way to make this more exciting but it is a necessary evil. My best advice would be staying organized and maybe spreading out so you remember what you’ve already packed. There are great packing lists and storage bins all over the place to help you feel more comfortable with packing everything up. For me, I decided to only take stuff for the end of summer and the beginning of fall because I’ll see my parents to exchange clothes before it gets colder!

What makes this process a little bit easier is remembering that every ending is a new beginning. Getting to college has taken twelve long years of hard work and determination. This is the start to our future!
 

Here We Come! New Buckeyes of 2012 🙂

Eighteen Candles!

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Cheers! I’m eighteen!

Surprisingly, this is the one birthday where I actually feel older than I did before. With graduation and college coming up and having been sick, I feel as though I’ve had to make a lot of “adult” decisions lately. Hey, it’s time right?

It’s been a long and quick eighteen years depending on which instance you look at, but I have learned and changed so much! So, for my big day, I decided to share eighteen bits of knowledge that I’ve gathered over the years. (:

#1. Life isn’t always a beach.

There are times when you are happy and times when you are sad. That’s just how it is. Look forward to the happy times and try to be positive during the sad ones. (:

#2. What goes around, comes around.

Hate to say it, but sometimes, those little things you say will come back to bite you in the butt if you aren’t careful! Always think of how what you say may affect another – we’re all guilty of this at one time or another!

#3. Regretting doesn’t change what happened.

Try as you might, what’s done is done and you can only try to fix what has happened, not go back and change it.

#4. You feel good about what you work for.

 Unless it’s just me, the things that you work hard for, whether it be a new purse, a good grade, or just plain cash, are more valuable than the things you are given.

#5. Bad things can make you stronger.

Unfortunately, sometimes utterly terrible things happen throughout life. Luckily, though, these sorts of experiences can make a person stronger than they have ever been. ♥

#6. Live each day like it’s your last.

You never know when your time is up! Smile, be happy, take some time for you, and enjoy being alive – it’s a gift!

#7. Cherish the moments you have.

Sometimes moments with certain people are limited whether it be family, friends, or acquaintances. Enjoy and relish in those moments because you never know when your “see ya laters” may be the last time. ♥

#8. Best friends are the people who stand by you through the good and the bad.

There are so many people who hit the road running when the going gets tough. A true friend will stand by you through thick and through thin. Sometimes your best friends may be just a few people, and hey! That’s okay!

#9. Failures don’t define you.

I’m sure you’ve heard it before: everybody makes mistakes. It’s true. Even the biggest geniuses in this world made mistakes to find their way.

Every failure is just a stepping stone to success!

#10. Take time for yourself.

With the hustle and bustle of day-t0-day life, you just have to take some time to CHILL. You may think you can keep going, but eventually, you will blow! Relax!

#11. It is OKAY to cry sometimes.

I don’t know if you do or don’t hate to cry, but be reassured that is is OKAY to cry. In fact, crying doesn’t show weakness; it shows that you’ve been strong for too long. Give yourself a little release sometimes, okay?

#12. Remind yourself that you are special.

Sometimes it is easy to forget that we’re all special people. Well, my friends, each person in this world is here for a purpose. You may not know what yours is yet – heck, I don’t even know mine! – but no one else can fulfill your purpose except for you!

#13. Never give up.

You’ve heard it before, but if you want something, go for it and don’t stop until you get there. Nothing is impossible if you just believe in yourself and your ability!

#14. SMILE.

Corny as it may be, smile! You’d be surprised at how much  a single smile can change your whole day around.

And guess what? You can do the same thing for others by sharing your smile!

#15. There is a time and place for everything.

Sometimes you may not understand the things happening in your life, but just remember that everything happens for a reason. ♥

#16. Find something you love.

No matter who you are, there is something in this world that you LOVE to do! Embrace it. Even when we feel like we don’t have the time, these hobbies are what keep us sane.

For me, it is blogging and photography and I always make time for it.

#17. Don’t be afraid to step outside of the box.

We all have our fears and we tend to stay inside our comfort zones. While that is okay, try to step outside once in a while. You may learn something new about yourself or about another person. Don’t let a fear keep you hiding!

And most importantly…

#18. It is okay to be DIFFERENT.

The one thing I have learned above all else in my eighteen years of life is that it is okay to be your own person. Even if you feel left out sometimes, stick to your guns! Why? Because we were all made originals, so there is no reason to be a copy.

In eighteen years, I’ve learned a lot, and I’m so excited to gather much more information and hopefully post 19 different things next year (: I’m so thankful for my parents who have helped me get this far and who have always encouraged me to be the best I can be. I’m also thankful for all my friends and family who have stuck by me and have never failed to make me laugh.♥

Thank you to you, too, followers and readers for liking and commenting on my posts – it makes the blogging even more fun (:

Hey mom, I’m a big kid now ♥

To Infinity…

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And Beyond! ♥

This infamous quote from the adorable Disney’s Toy Story movies is a favorite quote of mine. I was thinking about the infinity symbol yesterday as I was resting, particularly because I like it on jewelry. 

How big is infinity, I wondered. And really…how big is it? 

People say “forever” but how big is that?

So if you say “I love you ∞,” how much are you saying you love someone?

Can you imagine the width and depth of infinite love?

Infinite love requires endless dedication, support, encouragement, and forgiveness.

It seems like that often becomes difficult when the going gets tough…

So then, my friends, how rare is infinite love?

With love always so popular, why is infinite love so hard to come by?

Maybe it is because infinite love takes hard work.

There isn’t always a common ground and you don’t always get your way.

Sometimes you have to give and take – a lot.

Sometimes you have to get mad and walk away – but be willing to come back.

Sometimes you have to admit that you were wrong!

Infinite love is more than just “I love you ∞.”

It’s relying on someone to be your strength when you have no strength to stand.

It’s having an endless amount of trust and compassion.

It’s being able to forgive those things that have hurt you deeply.

It’s having respect for another’s beliefs and values.

It’s knowing the ins and outs of another person.

It’s the understanding that someone is, in fact, a human being just like you.

Infinite love is the dedication and commitment to another person in which you pledge to have and to hold:

-For better or for worse

-For richer or poorer

-In sickness and in health

To love and to cherish ’til death do you part. ♥

Marriage or no marriage, gay or straight, brunette or blonde, short or tall…

Love is around us all. ♥

Will you take someone to infinity with you? ♥

Easter(:

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Happy Easter!

Well, it is a little late in the day (bringing the start of school even closer), but still, I wanted to wish you a Happy Easter! This morning I was out and about in the yard with Jersey when I decided to take some photos! (:

Though I am not sure I am ready for all the make-up work when I get back to school, I am looking forward to beginning the road to the end of the year! Also, Justin will be here at the end of the week to celebrate my birthday, therefore, I think I can make it through five days of school. Positivity always works, right?

^The Easter Bunny is real (:

Thankfulness

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Sleeping Doesn’t Come Easy…

“How fickle my heart and how woozy my eyes,

I struggle to find any truth in your lies.

And now my heart stumbles on things I don’t know;

My weakness I feel I must finally show.

Lend me your hand and we’ll conquer them all,

But lend me your heart and I’ll just let you fall.

Lend me your eyes; I can change what you see,

But your soul you must keep totally free.

Har har, har har. Har har, har har.”

The lyrics of Awake My Soul by Mumford & Sons haunt me this morning as I cannot sleep. I think the mixture of medicines I’ve been given for my back either make me extremely drowsy or keep me from getting a wink of sleep. It seems as though I am tired during the day and then awake at night – nocturnal much?  My mom came into my room this morning and laid with me for a while after she put ice on my back (say 2:30 a.m.) and at around 4:00 we got up and ate. So here I am blogging at 4:49 a.m. pretty drowsy, I must say.

Justin talked to me for a bit before bed which was nice; he’s been busy lately and we haven’t had much time to talk. I felt better after hearing his voice, even if it was only for a little while. Mom talked to me the whole time she was laying with me; neither of us could sleep. Now Jersey is beside me on the couch, completely knocked out – I’m so jealous!

Luckily, in these past few days I’ve been thinking about how lucky I am to have such amazing people in my life to take care of me and my back. My mom, first of all, has been so wonderful – taking me to the ER, getting my pills, rotating between ice and heat, talking to me and keeping my company, getting my food, etc. I’m so glad I don’t have to do it all by myself – I would probably just cry.

Hopefully I will get to feeling better soon; I hate missing work and school! On a more positive note, though, I ordered my prom dress this weekend, though, and I can’t wait for it to arrive so I can bedazzle it for May 5th (:

Here are some pictures that have made me smile lately: